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[lizzybennet]

I really do have awesome kids. We went to Wal-Mart just now, and they were so good. Granted, they did goof off here and there, but all in all it went quite smoothly. Could it be that I'm getting the hang of this mom thing? Nah...

I've decided to get them going on a "Daily Behavioral Report Card". I found this program on a website dedicated to modifying the behavior of children with ADHD. Neither Zack nor Petey have been diagnosed with ADHD. Chris does not want to have them tested, and I will support his feelings on this matter. However, if I can work with them to help them learn more what is expected of them in a given situation, I'm going to. I don't want to medicate our kids any more than Chris does. But I do want to help them succeed in life.

Here are the goals I've set for both Zack and Petey:

Petey’s goals for better behavior:

1. Interrupts adults less than 5 times per day.

2. Respects adults (talks back fewer than 3 times per day).

3. Fewer than 3 fights with siblings per day.

4. Morning routine completed according to chart by 8:00 a.m.

5. Evening routine completed according to chart by 8:30 p.m.

6. Does not invite friends over without permission.

7. Appropriately asks an adult for help.

8. Minds own business with 3 or fewer reminders.



Zack’s goals for better behavior:

1. Has 4 or fewer instances of complaining/crying/whining

2. Follows directions with 3 or fewer repetitions.

3. Accepts feedback appropriately (no more than 3 arguments following feedback)

4. Shares/helps siblings with 2 or fewer reminders

5. Stays on task during homework with 3 or fewer reminders.

6. Morning routine completed according to chart by 8:00 a.m.

7. Evening routine completed according to chart by 8:30 p.m.

8. Dresses with in 5 minutes.

The incentive to the program is a reward system. For example, a day with half the goals met earns 15 minutes of video game time (once school starts they won't normally have video game time on a school day.) Or, if they meet more than half (twice as many as not) they can earn 30 minutes. If they meet all their goals for the whole day, they can play for 45 minutes. Likewise, once they have 4 days of good behavior, they can have a special date to McDonalds with Mom or Dad, and if they have 7 days of good behavior, they can go to the store and buy a pack of trading cards. These are just examples, the reward system is especially tweaked for each kid.

I hope it goes well. As we get these habits down, we'll both limit the reminders and change to different goals.

Comments

[heidial.livejournal.com]

I think its an awesome plan! I really hope it works for you!

[jediwonderboy.livejournal.com]

Huh. That's lots of detail. I try and keep it simple with the girls:

1. Pick up after yourself.
2. Do what is asked of you.
3. Stop rolling your eyes at us.
3a. Seriously, the rolling of the eyes... cut it out.
3b. I'm not kidding this time. Next look like that gets your eyes permantly knocked back into your-
3c. ok, that's it, go-

4. Just turn the other way when you're taking direction.

[mysteena.livejournal.com]

Yeah, this is a lot more detailed than anything I've tried before. I'm going to give it a shot though, because it focuses on specific problems each kid has.

Luckily we don't have the eye-rolling problem. I wonder if that's a girl thing, or if my kids aren't old enough yet. Lol, I totally remember doing it to my own parents though.